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Ways to Improve Depression & Anxiety without Meds

Monday, June 4th, 2012

As suggested by the Huffington Post:

  1. Exercise! Even walking around the block can help.
  2. Limit time spent on Facebook. Too much time spent on Facebook monitoring other people’s lives can lead to an unconscious need to compare yourself to everyone else. This can develop into jealousy, insecurity, misplaced feelings of superiority or alternatively, feelings of inadequacy. And really, you don’t need to fill your brain with the mindless babble people post.
  3. Stop living someone else’s life. When you are trying to please your parents, sibling, friends, or spouse, you are not doing your own thing or following your own wants. Your life is yours and you are the sole creator!
  4. Write it out. Keeping a private diary can be a very effective way of dealing with mood disorders. Writing down our thoughts can be cathartic,  and if you write it down you have the strictest confidentially.
  5. Stop comparing yourself to others. What if the person you are comparing yourself to, is basing their behavior off of someone else? You could be imitating someone you don’t know or would not like if you met. Don’t concern yourself needlessly with other people’s lifestyles.
  6. Socialize. Symptoms of depression include feelings of being unloved, along with loneliness or isolation. Some people go days or weeks without speaking to people. Even speaking to the counter clerk or a positive encounter with a stranger can increase your mood, strengthening your connection to the outside world (decreasing isolation!).
  7. Set goals. It doesn’t matter if it is a big or seemingly trivial goal, it just needs to be something that you can work towards daily. If you dedicate yourself to something that has personal significance to you, your life will have more direction and focus. Pick achievable goals that are easy to bite off and chew, and watch your mood lift over time.

Ask Steve

Thursday, March 25th, 2010

Q.  I’m a 29-year-old male and my girlfriend is 26. We’ve been dating about six months and I want to get married right away while she wants to wait another six months until she feels more secure about the relationship. We’ve argued several times about this in the last several weeks, but she doesn’t seem to get it. The other night we had another argument about setting the date and I actually began to cry and begged her to marry me sooner. I thought that when I cried it would show her how much I cared about her and that I was a sensitive man who could openly express my feelings of sadness and disappointment, but it had just the opposite effect. It seemed to shut her down and she became more aloof and we had a hard time continuing the conversation. What gives? I thought women wanted a man who was sensitive and could show his feelings.

A. When a woman says she wants a sensitive man in her life, what she is really asking for is a man who is first and foremost sensitive to her and her feelings. A woman feels most cared for and understood by a man who is sensitive and open enough in ways that take her feelings and needs into consideration as well as his own. We call that empathy. Empathy is the ability to “connect with” and “feel with” another human being. She is not asking for agreement as much as she is asking for her feelings, emotions, and ideas to be heard and acknowledged by him. To her, this signifies the qualities of a sensitive man.

Most likely, when you began to cry and beg her to marry you, in spite of  how she felt, she began to feel overwhelmed and turned off in two important areas. First, that somehow you really were not sensitive to her feelings in this matter and that she didn’t feel heard again.

Second, when you bring your girlfriend your tears and make her feel blamed for them, you are asking her to carry your emotional burden as well as her own, and that can be very overwhelming for a woman dealing with her own issues, fears and concerns. In that sense, it is about a man giving a woman a part of his emotional life that he has no business giving.

In order to resolve this issue, I would suggest that you begin to listen and learn more about your girlfriend’s true feelings and why they are important to her, and blame no more. Also, it seems to me that there are some strong emotions behind your tears. I would begin to look at what fears and wounds lie in your tears.

One way to do this is by working with a therapist or a men’s support group to help you uncover and resolve the feelings of anxiety and fear which come up for you around your girlfriend’s disagreement with you about the date of your wedding. Then, if you need to share your feelings of sadness and disappointment with her, you will be able to do it in the context of helping her understand you better, based on what you’ve learned about yourself, instead of making the problem about her.

Steve Mandell is a therapist at the Apex Westland office (734-729-3133).

[Assisted] Suicide

Thursday, March 18th, 2010

According to the American Association of Suicidology, nearly 91 people commit suicide per day, ranking suicide as the 11th highest cause of death in the United States. Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death in the 15-24 age group.

In 2006, the overall suicide rate was 10.9 suicide deaths per 100,000 people. For every suicide death, there were 12 to 25 attempted suicides occurring. The National Suicide Prevention Helpline is available twenty-four seven at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). All calls are anonymous.

In a story told to CNN, Alexis Moore recalled her attempt to commit suicide, a plan she had detailed over a five day period. She drank vodka for two hours and laid out twenty Xanax pills; ingested several pills, went to her room to cry and then returned to take more pills.

After she took several pills, Alexa heard a knock on the door which she ignored until he she heard a bang on her bedroom window. The man who was banging on the window was Andrew, who met Alexa at a business event three days prior.

Alexa let Andrew in and the two sat down to talk in her living room; Alexa has not attempted suicide since. “If it wasn’t for Andrew, I’d be dead now,” said the now 35-year-old second year law student in California. Andrew and Alexa are now a couple living together in Sacramento.

So what did Andrew do to change Alexa’s mind?

“I was living in this really unkempt place, and he had to get through a lot of brush and tree branches to get to my bedroom window. I know it sounds simple, but knowing that someone was going that extra mile was all it took for me to let him in.”

“After I let him in, he just gave me a hug. He said, ‘I was worried about you,’ When we talked, there was no judging me. There was no fear in his eyes. All I felt was comfort. He just listened and that’s all I needed,” explained Alexa.

Professional therapists highly encourage depressed people to get professional help. Even with professional help, depressed patients still benefit from a close support system. However, sometimes members in the support system are unsure of what to say.

Dr. Nancy Rappaport, assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, stressed that small words of kindness can go a long way.

Traci Parks, a 42-year-old photographer from Columbus, Ohio, reported feeling suicidal three times in her life. Parks attributed her husband telling her, “Please don’t kill yourself, I love you so much and I don’t want you to kill yourself,” as saving her life. When her husband died unexpectedly five years later, her friends offered a similar sentiment.

“One person told me she and her husband didn’t want me to kill myself, that they would miss me terribly and they thought I had a lot to offer the world even though she knew I didn’t feel that way,” Parks recalled.

Speaking a simple sentence such as “I don’t want you to die,” or “my life would be less fulfilled without you” can be a strong enough statement to resonate with a suicidal person. Sending a card is another way to let a person know you care.

Some depressed people indicate that they wish to be left alone but Traci Parks says it’s the last thing one should do. Traci’s husband would beseech Traci to go out at night with him and his friends. “The unspoken rule was I didn’t have to talk or interact. I did have to eat, and I did have to go.”

Apex Behavioral Health can help you or your loved one who is feeling depressed or suicidal. It is always better to act before it is too late. Trust your instincts, if you truly feel that someone needs help, they probably do.

On the opposite end of the spectrum is the Dignitas organization, or the “Right to Die” movement for assisted suicide in Switzerland. Switzerland is the only country where assisted suicide is legal for non-Swiss citizens. Dignitas has helped over a thousand people die since 1998.  One factor to note is that Switzerland allows assisted suicide but not euthanasia, the difference being that the person who wishes to die must take the lethal dosage themselves.

Zurich, Switzerland

Zurich, Switzerland

The vast majority of people who visit Dignitas are people who have been diagnosed with a terminal illness or an incurable, progressive disease who wish to invite death on their own terms.

 ”Usually, if the person has terminal cancer, motor neuron disease or multiple sclerosis and they are telling us ‘I don’t like to live some weeks or months until the terrible end’, then it is quite clear and we have no difficulty in saying yes,”  said Ludwig Minelli, the founder of Dignitas who runs the world’s first assisted suicide center in Zurich.

Ludwig Minelli, the founder of Dignitas.

There are several steps and precautions before a person can receive Minelli’s assistance in assisted suicide.  One has to pay to become a member of Dignitas and send in their medical records complete with a letter explaining why things have become intolerable and $2797.83 (£1,860). The medical files are sent to one of the medical doctors affiliated with Dignitas who determines whether or not he would write a prescription based on the medical history. If he agrees, the staff contacts the person to schedule a date and time for the death, along with offering hotel advice. 

Once the patient is in Switzerland, the individual has to pay for two appointments with the doctor, who further checks the patients’ medical records and prescribes the lethal prescription. The patient then must pay $2797.83 ( £1,860) for two staff members to organize and witness the death. The death is also videotaped for legality reasons with the police.

In the months before their death, Minelli and his staff try to find alternatives to suicide for the patient. They repeatedly question if the patient really wants to die and states, “As long as we are able to help them in the direction of life, we help them in the direction of life.”

Minelli believes that the right to choose to die is a fundamental human right. His vision is that everyone should have the right to end their life, not just the terminally ill, but anyone who wants to. Minelli does not pass moral  judgment and said “We don’t discuss moral questions. What moral? Which moral? Catholic? Muslim? Buddhist? We are just working on the atheist base of self-determination.”

The Swiss Criminal Code says that anyone who acts on selfish motives to assist someone in killing themselves can be punished with up to five years in jail. Dignitas interprets this to say that helping someone to die is not illegal as long as there isn’t a selfish intent, such as helping someone die in order to gain an inheritance.

Swiss medical regulations prohibit doctors from prescribing doses to healthy people and restricts involvement in suicide for the mentally ill. Dignitas cannot legally help profoundly depressed people in their quest for suicide; they can only assist people with a terminal illness.

Minelli is trying to fight that rule and he is currently involved in several legal battles with the Swiss government to clarify the law that governs suicide. He is not being prosecuted by any other country for any of the suicides he helped orchestrate.

At its core, Dignitas consists of three main beliefs. Minelli’s conviction is that once you give someone the freedom to talk about suicide it reduces a person’s desire to go ahead with it. Second, Minelli believes that the offer of assisted suicide, when the patient is given the go-ahead from the doctor, gives relief to patients that are in significant pain.  He attributes the relief to knowing that their future doesn’t have to be a decision between “the hell of their own suffering or attempting a high risk suicide by themselves.” 

According to Minelli’s research, 80% of people who are approved by the doctor for an assisted suicide do not follow through with it.

Lastly, Minelli thinks that providing a service to help people kill themselves will lessen the high number of failed suicides that leaves the person in more pain. He argues that not everyone who shoots themselves dies, and sometimes the individual remains alive in a terrible physical state. Failed suicides burden the nation’s health system, leading to another motivation for Dignitas.

“If we want to reduce the number of suicides and suicide attempts, we should break the taboo of suicide. We should not say suicide should not happen, we should say suicide is a marvellous opportunity given to man to withdraw them from a situation that is unbearable for them,” said Minelli.

Referring to suicide as a “marvelous opportunity” has not sat well with top Swiss conservative officials who are irritated with the nation being viewed as  ”Suicide Tourism.”  

Since Minelli’s involvement in assisted suicide, the Swiss government announced it would consult on whether to ban or greatly regulate assisted suicide.  One of his opponents in the public prosecutor’s office has told Minelli that eventually there will be a “biological solution” to the Dignitas issue, hinting that he hopes Minelli passes.

Minelli’s decision to found Dignitas stemmed from watching his dying grandmother repeatedly asking the doctor to help her end her life when he was a child.

“Death is the end of our life. After a good life, we should have a good death. A good death is death without pain, where you can say ‘I had a good life, and I can now go to the other side. Now a days, death is exported to institutions, to hospitals. Death has become a lonely occasion,” explained Minelli.

Minelli showed a reporter the death apartment where people can experience a  ’good death.’ He told the journalist, David Levene, that he had numerous difficulties finding an apartment willing to house Dignitas. Neighbors at previous apartments complained at the constant presence of undertakers while a different apartment was shut down by the local council.

An apartment in an industrial area was very simplistic which horrified several clients’ family members. Daniel Gall wrote a book called “I Accompanied My Sister” which denounced the whole experience. Gall told the reporter, “It was ugly. Very, very ugly. It was the most horrible factory, next to the biggest brothel in Zurich. The conditions were monstrous.”

Minelli now hosts Dignitas at a two-story house located in an industrial industry, partially financed by donations from members. Dignitas is a non-profit organization.

Dignitas location

The Dignitas location.

 To enter the house, guests walk across a wooden bridge over a goldfish pond until they arrive in a light room with a reclining hospital bed in one corner and a large sofa in another corner. By the bed there is a CD player along with open boxes of tissues ready on the table. There is another bed to die in down the hallway. The reporter states that the place is not funeral like, but clean, sunny and neutral, similar to a holiday rental apartment.

 

People who come to Switzerland to die with Dignitas are encouraged to bring family or friends. One patient brought 12 friends along. The staff gives restaurant advice for a last meal, but notes that the people are usually eager to get on with the death process.

One of the rooms in Dignitas

One of the rooms at Dignitas.

Minelli said he is never present at the deaths. Beatrice Bucher, a paid member of the staff who works in head office, has been present at more than 20 deaths. The people are asked to come after eleven A.M., so the police formalities that occur after the death can occur during office hours.

“They need to know that they can go home at any time. I’m constantly asking if this is what they want. I have to be clear that this is the really the moment,” Beatrice said. On more than one occasion she has helped people return home who have changed their mind. “One woman still calls me to say thank you.”

The first stage occurs with two Dignitas members sitting at a round table with the individual who has chosen to die and his or her family members. The individual has to sign many documents, setting out the desire to die. It is up to the individual when they decide to take the anti-vomit medication that prepares the stomach and the lethal drug is given half an hour later.  The individual decides when he will take the cocktail.

“If someone wants to talk about their life for six hours, we will never hurry them,” Minelli said. “The music, all the details, are their choice. We are servants of their desire for self-determination.”

Bucher stays at the table and goes through the documents with the family. 

Beatrice Bucher, Dignitas nurse

Nurse Beatrice Bucher.

  ”Sometimes they will sit at the table and talk about their family and their life and we have a nice time. Sometimes the person who is going to die will appear to be angry and quite bossy, and tell me to hurry up, but I know it is not how they are feeling inside.

Once I had a mother – not so old, in her 50s – who was really ill. She came with her daughter who was perhaps 25. The mother was very firm that she would go quickly and that it was not a problem. She told the daughter that she was not to cry and made her go and stand in the kitchen. I had to explain that this is not the way, you should not tell your daughter she cannot cry,” said Bucher.

“Some people say thank you and tell their family they love them, that they have had a really good life and that they are grateful that they can die,” she continued.

Regardless of one’s personal views on suicide, suicide should always be considered as a last option. There is always professional help available at Apex. If you are mentally ill and feeling suicidal please call a hotline or seek professional help before doing something irreversible.

Again, the National Suicide Hotline is 1-800-273-TALK. The therapists and psychiatrists at Apex (734-729-3133 for the Westland office)  are available and more than willing to help you.

Children of Alcoholics Week, February 14 – 20

Friday, February 12th, 2010

Children Need Help Too!

Children in families experiencing alcohol or drug abuse need attention, guidance, and support. They may be growing up in homes in which the problems are either denied or covered up.

These children need to have their experiences validated. They also need safe, reliable adults in whom to confide and who will support them, reassure them, and provide them with appropriate help for their age. They need to be fun and just be kids.

Families with alcohol and drug problems usually have high levels of stress and confusion. High stress family environments are a risk factor for early and dangerous substance use, as well as mental and physical health problems.

It is important to talk honestly with children about what is happening in the family and to help them express their concerns anf eelings. Children need to trust the adults in their lives and to believe that they will support them.

Children living with alcohol or drug abuse in the family can benefit from participating in educational support groups in their school student assistance programs. Those aged 11 and older can join Alateen groups, which meet in community settings and provide healthy connections with others coping with similar issues. Being associated with the activities of a faith community can also help.

Resources for Information and Help

There is help available in your local community. Look in the yellow pages under alcoholism for treatment programs and self-help groups. Clal your country health department and ask for licensed treatment programs in your community. Keep trying until you find the right help for your loved one, yourself, and your family. Ask a family therapist for a referral to a trained interventionist, or call the Intervention Resource Center at 1-888-421-4321.

Self-Help Groups

Al-Anon Family Groups www.al-anon.org

Alateen www.alateen.org

Alcoholics Anonymous www.aa.org

Adult Children of Alcoholics www.adultchildren.org

For a pastoral counseling center in your community, visit www.aapc.org.

For More Information

SAMHSA’s National Helpline

1-800-662-HELP; www.findtreatment.samhsa.gov

National Association for Children of Alcoholics www.nacoa.org

National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence www.ncadd.org

Alcohol and Drug Abuse Hurts Everyone in the Family

Dependence on alcohol and drugs is our mos serious national public health problem. It is prevalent among rich and poor, in all regions of the country, and all ethnic and social groups.

Millions of Americans misuse or are dependant on alcohol or drugs. Most of them have families who suffer the consequences, often serious, of living with this illness. If there is alcohol or drug dependence in your family, remember you are not alone.

Most individuals who abuse alcohol or drugs have jobs and are productive members of society, creating a false hope in the family that “it’s not that bad.”

The problem is that addiction tends to worsen over time, hurting both the addicted person and all the family members. It is especially damaging to young children and adolescents.

People with this illness really may believe that they drink normally or that “everyone” takes drugs. These false beliefs are called denial; this denial is a part of the illness.

It Doesn’t Have to be That Way

Drug or alcohol dependence disorders are medical conditions that can be effectively treated. Millions of Americans and their families are in healthy recovery from this disease.

If someone close to you misuses alcohol or drugs, the first step is to be honest about the problem and to seek help for yourself, your family, and your loved one.

Treatment can occur in a variety of settings, in many differnt forms, and for different lengths of time. Stopping the alcohol or drug use is the first step to recovery, and most people need help to stop. Often a person with alcohol or drug dependence will need treatment provided by professionals just as with other diseases. Your doctor may be able to guide you.

“What is Substance Abuse Treatment? A Booklet for Families” was written especially for family members and is available through SAMHSA’s National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP.

Family Intervention Can Start the Healing

Getting a loved one to agree to accept help, and finding support services for all family members are the first steps toward healing for the addicted person and the entire family.

When an addicted person is reluctant to seek help, sometimes family members, friends, and associates come together out of concern and love, to confront the problem drinker. They strongly urge the person to enter treatment and list the serious consequences of not doing so, such as family breakup or job loss.

This is called “intervention.” When carefully prepared and one with teh guidance of a competent, trained specialist, the family, friends and associates are usually able to convince their loved one – in a firm and loving manner – that the only choice is to accept help and begin the road to recovery.

People with alcohol or drug dependence  problems can and do recover. Intervention is often the first step.

However, people on the receiving end of the intervention frequently feel trapped or bombarded. One does not have to undergo an intervention to receive treatment, though some people need to see the effect their addiction has had on family and friends before they realize the extent of their addiction.

If you are asking yourself if drugs or alcohol have created a problem within your life, chances are they already have. We urge you to please seek help, especially if you are a parent raising a child.

It’s important to remember that when you seek treatment, you will not be judged. Organizations are here to help you get your life back on track, help you manage your addiction, not to bring your self-esteem down.

Please call APEX for individual therapy or contact any of the group listed above.

The Effects of Cognitve Behavioral Individual Therapy on Anxiety, Depression, & Cancer Coping Skills in Women Initially Diagnosed w/ Cancer

Thursday, February 4th, 2010

Written by: Huda Zenati, Ph.D., LMSW in August 2009, as advised by Dr. Arnold B. Coven, a counseling major in the Doctor of Philosophy.

Abstract

Cancer patients undergo an enormous amount of psychological stress that begins at the diagnosis and continues during treatment, or even until remission. The stress, anxiety, and depression levels are especially high during diagnosis and the following one-year period.

Cognitive behavior therapy has been shown to be effective in decreasing the severity of anxiety in patients who suffer from anxiety disorders, leading to long-term benefits such as better coping skills.  

Procedures

The pupose of this study was to examine the effects of cognitive behavioral short-term individual therapy in women newly diagnosed with various cancers.  Ten women with various types of cancers were referred from physicials who practiced in a large metropolitan area. Each woman who  qualified for the criteria of the study was randomly assigned to the experimental or wait-list control group. The experimental group was treated with cognitive behavior therapy time-limited individual therapy sessions while the wait-list control group underwent no treatment. The criterion instruemtns were the Hospital Anxiety and Depression scale (HAD, Zigmon& Snaith, 1983) and Cancer Coping Questionnaire (CCQ, Moorey, Frampton & Greer, 2003).

After completing two sessions, the five participants in the experimental group received two follow-up phone calls which encouraged participants to use the coping strategies. After the third intervention sessions, the criterion instruments were re-administed to the experimental group to detrmine the treatment effects on the dependant variables, anxiety, depression, and coping strategies.

The five participants assigned to the wait-list control group did not recieve any treatment.  The researcher met with each participant assigned to the wait-list congrol group to obtain the signed informed consent form, demographic form, and criterion instruments. The instruments were re-administered at the end of the 4th week by telephone, in person, or return mail.

Results

The statistical power consideration based on the sample size limitation  (n=5 per group) required implementing nonparametric exact tests (Mann-Whitney U and Wilcoxon W tests) rather than asymptotic parametric tests. The findings supported all three research hypotheses. A statistically significant decrease in anxiety and depression symptoms, along with an increase in cancer coping skills, were found in women initially diagnosed  with cancer receiving treatment when compared to the participants who received no treatment.

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